Create a new context around sexuality in your relationships, one that moves you out of power struggle and into flow, connection, and co-creativity.
Relationships live or die around the power struggles that arise from sexual expression.
Do any of these feel familiar?
- “I can’t feel connected unless I have sex”
- “I can’t have sex until I feel connected”
- “I just want to be wanted…is that so much to ask??”
- “I don’t know what’s wrong with me–it must be low sexual desire”
–Couples have universal struggles that they do their best to resolve, though often just give up in frustration, resorting to affairs, porn, or distancing.
This workshop won’t solve any of that directly.
What we will do is explore what gets in the way of true emotional and physical connection, and offer a new context, one of entering a state of flow, connection, and co-creativity, so that couples can find their own path forward.
This is an advanced workshop. Prerequisites: ILC, Essentials,
Advanced Couples Workshop, or work with Julie
We will explore the following topics

Creating a context of play and flow

Obstacles to co-creating a wonderful sexual life together

How power imbalances stop sexual intimacy

Using the Karpman Drama Triangle to see the issue; and moving out of the Triangle to create what you really want

Unearthing the conditions to support you both stepping into a deeper and more satisfying sexual/emotional relationship
Julie has been transformative to the health and vitality of our relationship. It’s not an overstatement to say we might not have made it this far and with this much grace and humor if not for her guidance, wisdom and unflappable sense of humor. Julie has an amazing capacity to distill what’s most important into tools and lessons that impact not only our relationship as a couple, but also how we parent, connect with our parents, work with colleagues and even changing dynamics with friends at this stage of midlife. If you can get time with this legend of a human being and counselor, you won’t regret it.
~ AG – Student of life
This is not a workshop for solving the “Why don’t we have more sex?”
Or
”How can I get my partner to stop bugging me about sex?” polarity.
Instead, it will clear a path for you to create what you really want – together.
What’s included:
- 2 ½ days of direct instruction from Dr. Julie Colwell
- Learn tools to move out of power struggles
- Demonstrations and experiences of these tools
- Handouts
- The rare experience of hearing what happens around sexual/emotional issues for other couples.

Dr. Julie Colwell has seen hundreds of couples over three decades, as well as teaching many workshops and classes. She has written three books (The Relationship Ride, The Relationship Skills Workbook, and the Inner Map) addressing power dynamics in relationships–and how to work with them directly and effectively. Dr. Colwell is the founder and director of the Evolutionary Power Institute, where she and other faculty teach tools in how to recognize and move out of the reactivity that underlies all power struggles, then follow a clear path back to the creativity and collaboration that is the natural state of humans. |